Editor's Note: This is the Magazine's second recent post about cougars. The first came earlier in the week and was written by Simone. Now Scott gives us the male's perspective...
Several years ago, I performed some sketch comedy at a comedy festival. After the show, we went to a bar, where I started talking to a pretty nurse who had come to the show with a good friend of one of the guys in my sketch group. We ended up going back to the guy's place for an after party and late that night, I started making out with the nurse. She was the head nurse at a college, where the kids had nicknamed her the STD Queen, because she gave out contraceptives and warned kids about STDs, not because she had so many. Indeed, she had me looking all over that house for a condom. However, when I couldn't find one she decided we didn't need one, in a little 'Do as I say, not as I do,' moment that worked out nicely for yours truly. She was worried about diseases, not getting pregnant, since she was in her mid-forties, I'd estimate, give or take a year (gentlemen never ask). We had sex multiple times, and frankly it was amazing. She had to leave early and when she got up she thanked me and told me the night was just what she needed. I thought about her for a long time after that night, thought about getting in touch with her again through my friend, but I didn't. Ultimately it seemed unnecessary and she probably wouldn't have been into it, anyway.
For a long time, I was into older women. I hate the smarmy term 'cougar', because I was into older women before the sophomoric word entered our vernacular, and because I don't think women should be labeled something for behaving a certain way, while men have been behaving the same way, label-free, for just about forever.
Not everyone wants to be in a relationship. Some people just want to screw around for awhile. And for those people, I recommend getting with someone ten-to-twenty years older than you at some point. The sex is often great, since your partner has more than a decade's worth of experience on you. Also, this person mostly likely won't hound you, cling to you, or cramp your style. I spent my night with the STD Queen when MySpace was the social networking site du jour, and I'm pretty sure the nurse wasn't on it. Now, you might hook up with an older lady, and sure she might have a Facebook page, but she's probably using it to keep up with her family, friends, and maybe her kids. She probably won't be interested in keeping tabs on you, and that can feel pretty liberating.
